I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend. We've been seeing each other secretly for about a year, and he's finally ready to leave her. Can I trust him?
Naughty by Nature
No. And I'll tell you why. When I was much younger I had a dog, and I trained him to bark at all of the people I didn't like when they passed by the window. Then one day he started barking at me. I was mad, but then I said, "Well played, dog. You have already established that you like to bark, and I encouraged it, so I cannot be surprised that you are now barking at me." I'm telling you this story because it's like a metaphor where your boyfriend is the dog, and you are me.